Special Needs

The All-Inclusive Quakers!

April 18, 2019 by David Propper

The Award-Winning Wrestling Team with Compassion

Competing in wrestling meets across the region, the composition of Horace Greeley’s team is like no other.

For the last four years, the Greeley wrestling team has been inclusive where the Quakers have students with special needs practicing and competing with the team. The three students this year aren’t just managers simply helping out, but athletes that put the same work and dedication into their craft just like every other wrestler on the team. Their addition has been both incredibly rare among local wrestling circles and undeniably beneficial.

“I think it changed the culture of our team in a positive way,” head coach Mike DeBellis said. “It seemed like the kids had more compassion for each other and tried to help each other more.” DeBellis has been coaching wrestling in the district for the past 16 years and currently teaches Introduction to Engineering, Robotics and Technology, and Design Integration classes at Greeley. He was this year’s recipient of the Ed Habermann Award from the Horace Greeley Scholarship Fund’s annual gala last month for being an exemplary role model for students in the district.

Awards Abound for the Quakers

While more compassion seems to be counterintuitive in a sport where a moment of mercy could spell disaster, the results for Greeley can’t be questioned. The past two seasons, senior Nicholas Ng, junior Ho Jin Lee, and sophomore Brady McCarthy, who all are special needs students, have been part of a team that has finished in the top ten both years in all of New York State.

Captain and senior Aaron Wolk was crowned state champion for his weight class at 172 pounds. He is the third Greeley wrestler to win the state championship. Previous state championship titles by a Greeley wrestler were won in 1978 and 1995. Wolk will continue wrestling next year at Brown University. Captain and senior Matt Schreiber took fifth overall for his weight class and captain and sophomore Isabella Garcia finished second in the New York girls state championship this year.

Lee, who has Down syndrome, joined the team four years ago. McCarthy, who also has Down syndrome and Ng, who is autistic, both joined the team two years ago. The three students are able to participate because assistant coach Anthony Tortora is certified to instruct students with disabilities. (He works as a physical education teacher in the Bronx with special needs students.)

The three boys are at practice daily, going through the same grind as everyone else and occasionally compete at meets in exhibitions matches against grapplers from other schools. All three boys are also certified to wrestle.

Brady’s father, Kevin, said wrestling has given Brady a boost in confidence and allowed him to meet more classmates he wouldn’t normally get to know. When Brady performed in a school play this year, many of his teammates attended the show.

Physically, it’s been great for him, and allowed him to be part of something bigger than himself. While Brady has played other sports, a certain temperament is needed to wrestle.

“He likes competing,” Kevin said of his son. “It made him a more complete person.”

DeBellis has made it clear anyone that wants to join the team is more than welcome. DeBellis has been known to recruit students in the hallway to join the team.

“Wrestling is a unique sport in that when you do it, you’re a wrestler for the rest of your life,” DeBellis said. “No matter what happens, you’re a wrestler and it’s a totally different sport than any other sport out there.”

“Wrestling really is the only sport where it is all-inclusive,” he added.

Trio Serves as Role Models for the Team

Tortora said the inclusion of McCarthy, Lee and Ng in the program lights up the day for every other wrestler in the room.

McCarthy has even become known for his pep talks at meets and being the most passionate person cheering for teammates. He’ll sit right next to the coaches while a teammate is on the mat and repeatedly tell him, “You can do it, you can do it.” His father encourages his son to, “be there, be vocal.”

And it certainty doesn’t go unnoticed. His teammates love watching him wrestle because there’s no denying how passionate he is. When Brady gets the opportunity to shine, he puts all his effort into it.

Schreiber said he’s learned to be more patient and pay attention to every minute aspect during practice. Wrestling can be a very detailed oriented sport, he noted, which requires his three disabled teammates to focus intensely. Garcia added while wrestling can be incredibly arduous, anyone with the right mindset and desire, like McCarthy, Lee and Ng, can participate. And Wolk said he’s learned to never give up. While it might take his three disabled teammates more time to grasp a new wrestling move, their attitude is only positive and optimistic.

There are no excuses for another wrestler who’s been given the gift of able body and mind to get frustrated or complain when there are three teammates with disabilities who refuse to settle. “They always have so much energy at every practice and it is great to see,” Wolk said. “It shows the rest of the team, don’t give up.”

A Music-Ability Minded Program: Rock On Music School

August 29, 2018 by Shauna Levy

(L-R) David Meyers and Sophia Tuohy, a music student from Armonk
PHOTO COURTESY OF DAVID MEYERS

David Meyers found his passion for teaching music to children with disabilities quite accidentally. Having spent most of his career in real estate, music was relegated to a side pursuit that he relished when afforded the time. In 2008, however, that all changed when he began teaching a youth music program at New York’s Patterson Recreation Center. Playing and writing music moved to the forefront of his focus as his career took an unanticipated turn.

A New Beat

As Meyers became acquainted with the learning style of today’s children, he saw that to resonate with his audience, he would need to devise his own curriculum. He explains, “I quickly found that kids no longer absorb music in the same way as when I was a student. Modern music is heavily electronic and lyrics are oftentimes not age appropriate.” As a result, Meyer’s unique “RockOnMusicSchool” technique was born. He created original music and developed a learning method that began with simple lyrics, accompanied by the most basic guitar string work that gradually advanced to intricate songs with chords requiring increasingly complex finger work.

Serving the Underserved

In teaching, Meyers found a renewed sense of gratification, saying, “It’s the first job I’ve had that isn’t just about the dollar and that is so personally fulfilling.” The role soon became even more meaningful when a friend approached him to give lessons to his son who has autism. Meyers adapted his mainstream curriculum and within a few months saw his new student develop confidence through music. That experience shaped Meyers’ music school. He says, “I made a personal commitment to cater to this audience. These children have a tremendous need for recreational opportunities and are such an underserved community. Music provides them with a creative and social outlet, while building self-esteem, fine motor and language skills.”

Meyers now teaches music lessons through organizations such as SPARC (Special Programs and Resources Connections) of Westchester County as well as through his RockOnMusicSchool, providing one-on-one sessions at students’ homes. “Conducting lessons in a child’s home is so beneficial to those with physical disabilities that may make it challenging to get out or those who thrive within the comforts of their own environment,” Meyers says. Lessons are fine-tuned based on each child’s unique abilities. As Meyers points out, “Depending on the child’s circumstances, we might select strings, drums or keyboard.” He also modifies lessons by focusing on specific skills such as developing eye contact, sounds or social cues. To engage the kids, he often writes “silly, personalized songs” to get them excited and motivated for playing music.

Marilyn Tuohy of Armonk has become accustomed to hearing Meyers’ fun lyrics throughout the hallways of her home. “My daughter Sophia has Down Syndrome and loves music, which led a friend to recommend David to us. He really knows how to interact with her and gets her engaged no matter what her mood. He brings all instruments including drums, shakes, the keyboard and guitar and always comes up with new songs that are so alive and appealing to kids. They learn the lyrics right away. After David leaves, Sophia as well as my two sons and even my husband are still singing! I’ve seen my daughter’s speech and fine motor skills develop as a result. She speaks slower and clearer and is always singing in the house.”

Music is known to have therapeutic qualities and Meyers agrees, explaining, “Music has a natural timing and rhythm that serves to encourage children to use their voice in response to appropriate cues. Songs have a built-in conversational script that is valuable for children who have social challenges. Students learn to manage frustration, gaining the understanding that it’s okay to mess up and that they will eventually advance. It’s all in their control. These are skills they will take with them into adulthood.”

A Satisfying Crescendo

Today, that first client that inspired RockOnMusicSchool’s mission is now proficient in keyboards, bass, drums and guitar and has developed a love of The Beatles. Meyers proudly reports that this student has also integrated into a mainstream music class. “Each child already feels the music inside of them–some just need guidance to get it out,” he adds as we wrap up our conversation. And, it seems that Meyers has mapped the path as he continues to encourage all children to find a love of music in their own unique way.

Exceptional People: A New, New Castle Committee Formed to Address Special Needs

August 25, 2016 by The Inside Press

A New, New Castle Committee Formed to Address Special Needs

By Heather Skolnick

The Census Bureau estimated in 2010 that 19% of the United States population has a disability. That’s approximately one in five. That means in a group of five friends, one of them may have a disability. In a classroom with 20 students, four may have a disability. While the definition of disability may be broad, the prevalence of it in the United States is incredible.

National statistics on those with a disability are alarming. Those with a disability are significantly less likely to earn their high school diploma. They also earn far less than their same age peers, and are far more likely to be living in poverty.

To support our neighbors in our community with disabilities, in 2015, the town of New Castle formed the New Castle Exceptional People Committee. According to Town Supervisor Robert Greenstein, its mission is to “report and make recommendations to the Town Board on the concerns of the Town’s special needs residents, provide updates on the Americans with Disabilities Act, and disseminate information on the Town’s recreational, educational and social programming for all age groups of residents with special needs.

The Committee will focus its efforts on organized recreational, educational, social and skill-building activities and work to raise general awareness about the needs and rights of persons with disabilities.”

Thus far in 2016, nine members were appointed and a round table session was held to discuss employment opportunities for people with special needs. The committee meets a few times a month and discusses the things they would like to accomplish. The Committee includes people who have disabilities themselves as well as those who have a friend or family member who does.

I met with Kevin O’Brien, one of the appointed members of the Committee. Kevin is the youngest member of the committee and has special needs. At 19, he brings a unique perspective and represents the young adult population. Kevin is very passionate about the New Castle Exceptional People Committee. He said, “It offers me a good way to express my ideas and suggest strategies for people with different disabilities that we think can make their future better.”

Kevin’s ideas span the gamut, from social to physical to philanthropic activities. Kevin would love local opportunities to be social, in a way that is comfortable to him and people like him. He is, after all, a teenager, and would like to be with peers and have fun! He has organized his ideas into two categories. The first encompasses exercise and nature. He suggests organized bike rides, hikes, bird watching. Another idea is watching sports, but for those with sensory issues, all buzzers, loud noises and flashing lights eliminated. he second category includes ways to be a part of the community. He suggests book discussion groups, art and music classes.

Kevin also suggested a Habitat for Humanity project that is specific to the Special Needs community and their abilities. These are all things that New Castle currently offers for the general population, but Kevin suggests separate instances with modifications as needed.

Kevin recently graduated from high school and will soon be looking for a first job that suits his skill set and meets his interests while accommodating his special needs. This is an area the committee will continue to address–how to ensure that the special needs community has the necessary job skills to get and maintain a job as well as how to find an appropriate position. Perhaps someone reading this very article knows of something that would be a good fit for Kevin!

A recent post on Facebook’s Chappaqua Moms group by one of the members let the community know of the group’s existence with the intent of identifying more of the Special Needs community. The group wants to be sure that they truly are serving the wishes of the community that spans young and old, with various disabilities. The need is clear for a group such as this one and there is no doubt that they will accomplish much if my conversation with Kevin is any indicator.

When I initially reached out to Kevin via email, he responded, “I am so inspired by the town‘s responsiveness to the concerns of people with disabilities.” But it is I who is inspired by him and his passion for making this town a better place for those with a disability.

Heather Skolnick and her husband Neal have three young children. They have been New Castle residents for ten years. When Heather isn’t writing articles, she works for a footwear company as their Director of Planning.

Proud and Inspired

May 28, 2013 by The Inside Press

For June, I’m incredibly proud and inspired to have brought so many of my sponsors together to so eloquently convey how they go about working with families who have children with Special Needs, or, as my remarkable friend and financial advocate for special needs families Laurie Nemeroff pointed out to me, on behalf of those children who are simply differently abled!

I was equally moved following a thoroughly enjoyable March meeting on Long Island with Kevin Gersh, founder of “The Gersh Experience”–I learned about Gersh through Laurie. Her step-son Jared, who has Asperger’s, has benefitted immensely from their program. Below too is just one example from our “Special Needs” section of how my sponsors have addressed a most deserving and able population. It’s about the “Moving Wheels & Heels Program” at the Steffi Nossen School of Dance since 2002.

The rest of the issue: a cover story highlighting New Castle’s Summer Concert series spotlights Tramps Like Us band leader and Chappaqua dad Mark Salore, as depicted by Carolyn Simpson, and as generously told by our Chamber’s Rob Greenstein. Leaf through these pages and you’ll also learn about an avid Hillary blogger, “Still4Hill.” There’s also a sweet write up by an equally proud and inspired dad about a July wedding for two Greeley sweethearts, including his son.

Sadly, at least two profound tragedies transpired while preparing this issue… one in Boston, of course, and one closer to home. My goal here is simply to highlight beauty and hope. Toward that end, I bring you a diary of the shattering but also the later uplifting days by Zarah Kavarana, a Boston University freshman from Briarcliff Manor. And, on behalf of Teresa, Eugene and Theo, I offer a special remembrance in words and pictures to honor the brilliant and talented Chatschik Bisdikian.

Love to you all; have a safe and happy summer.

Town Sports “VIP” Programs a Hit

May 28, 2013 by The Inside Press

By Gillian Hand

Every Saturday afternoon, sneakers are laced, team jerseys put on, and excitement builds. It’s game day. Players head to the field, ready for an afternoon of soccer.

This isn’t just any Chappaqua sport, though. This is AYSO VIP, a program dedicated to providing a safe and enjoyable sports experience for children with mental, social or physical disabilities that prevent them from participating on town teams. VIP, which stands for “Very Important Player,” teaches the foundation and skills of the game while also addressing the particular needs of every player. Like mainstream AYSO soccer, the program runs in both the fall and spring, and plays like any other AYSO sport.

With over 20 players, ranging from ages four to 14, VIP allows all children with varying disabilities the opportunity to learn, have fun and be a part of a team. The program helps build self-esteem and provides chances for exercise and socialization with others. At the start of each session, each player is assigned a “buddy”–an able-bodied volunteer helper who assists them both on and off the field. Each practice/game starts with group stretching, after which players can choose to play in the game or simply work on their skills with their buddies. These volunteers stay with the children throughout the practice, always teaching, assisting and encouraging. Whether it’s a high-five for a good kick or a cheer for a goal, buddies keep the kids in high spirits and enthusiastic about the game. There is always space set aside for one-on-one attention, and many different activities that the players can engage in.

Part of the Team

VIP Coordinator Josh Lurie first learned about VIP when he brought his daughter Charlotte to a similar program in Tarrytown several years ago. Thrilled with the opportunity it presented for his special needs child, he went to AYSO to propose a VIP program in Chappaqua. In 2010, the program was born here in town, and with support from the community and AYSO, VIP has progressed into the “fun, safe and healthy sports environment” Lurie hoped it to be. He even hopes to eventually have games against the VIP teams in other towns.

Josh Lurie and his daughter, Charlotte. Photo by Joanna Segal

Parents of the players, says Lurie, have been incredibly grateful for the program. “They can sit down and watch their kids run around, which they usually don’t get the opportunity to do.” Parent Joanna Segal, who’s daughter Leora, age 12, participates in VIP, finds the program wonderful. With two other daughters who play Chappaqua sports, she loves being able to also see Leora as part of a team, enjoying not only the sports themselves but the social aspect as well. “Leora is so excited when she wakes up in the morning knowing it’s game day,” said Segal. “She puts on her uniform proudly and is so thrilled to be part of the team. VIP has allowed her to be more connected to the community.”

Expanding Beyond Soccer

The popularity of the VIP soccer program convinced Lurie that a similar program could be offered during the winter. With the assistance of the New Castle Youth Basketball Association, which helps scheduling court time, VIP basketball was introduced two years ago, and has become popular as well. Not only does the basketball program give the kids another activity to engage in during soccer’s off season, but it also provides an outlet for winter activity and maintains the contact with the friends they made during the fall.

As the program and its need for buddies grew, a Greeley club was formed to recruit and coordinate the volunteers. VIP Special Connection, formed by Greeley students Margot Putnam and Dana Weinberg about a year ago, spreads word of the program and informs the volunteers of practice time and location. Special Connection has doubled the number of volunteer buddies, typically 7th through 12th graders, many of whom form relationships with the VIP children and truly get to know them.

Changing Lives

“VIP has been one of the most rewarding things in any aspect of my life.” said Lurie. “You can see the impact it has on kids.” Kids gain a sense of joy and normalcy, which may not always come easily to them. As they score a goal and look up to see their parents cheering for them from the sidelines, or return to their families after the concluding VIP cheer, the players’ smiles are contagious. As a VIP “buddy” who has worked with these young soccer and basketball players for the past two years, I can’t help but smile along with them. Being able to see their progress and happiness is a feeling like no other, and it’s a privilege for me to be able to participate in this extraordinary program. For more info, visit

chappaquaayso.org/VIP.asp.

Gillian Hand will be a freshman at Horace Greeley High School in the fall.