College

9 Don’ts and Do’s for your First Year at College. Real Advice From a Rising Sophomore

September 1, 2015 by The Inside Press

By Sarah Jane Weill

1. Don’t: Bring your whole closet

Don’t get me wrong, clothes are important. I love all my clothes, so I know how hard it is to choose your favorite clothing items. But when you go to college, you have to make hard decisions like this. Put it in perspective: there really isn’t space in your tiny dorm room to store your entire wardrobe. If you’d rather not have to store socks in your desk drawers and sweaters under your chair, remember to pack selectively.

2. Don’t: Skip over that obscure Art History class

Or whatever class’s course description makes you want to run in the other direction. It may sound weird, but take a chance and sign up for it. Sometimes the best classes are the ones that have nothing to do with your major. Maybe this class will open up your mind, maybe it’ll be a good conversation piece 20 years from now or maybe it’ll give you a good laugh; but either way, it’s an experience that might really be worth having. After all, college is about learning, isn’t it?

3. Don’t: Send emojis as a form of communication to your professor

We all know that texting wouldn’t be texting without the use of emojis. But emailing your professor is not the same thing. It is, in fact, a more serious task. This means using full words (text lingo can be confusing, TBH), proper grammar, capitalization and no emojis. If you’re worried about writing out your thoughts only in words, relax, it’s not as hard as you think. So, save the emojis for your BFFs who will think they are cute and funny, unlike your professors. (Got it? *winky face, *smiling face, *thumbs up)

4. Don’t: Make doing laundry harder than it has to be

Ok, I’m going to say this once and only once: detergent pods are your friends. Let’s be honest here, odds are doing your own laundry is not something you are particularly used to, and you might be a little bit hesitant before doing your first load. But after putting it off week after week, the only clean clothes you have left are two mismatched socks and a pair of jeans. Don’t freak out! Avoid the classic rookie mistake (putting in too much detergent) and simply use pods; all will be well!

5. Don’t: Overdo it when buying your school paraphernalia

You have four years to don your school colors, and just as many years to stock up on all the necessary spirit-wear items. So you don’t have to go buy up the whole store on the first day. Instead, limit yourself to one sweatshirt, maybe one t-shirt too. But that’s it. You don’t need a complete set of school logoed socks, so put them down! Remember this isn’t only about money: there’s that whole space issue again (see above on how many clothes will fit reasonably in your room). And at the end of the day, you really just don’t want to be that kid who is your school’s biggest fan.

6. Do: Wait to buy school supplies at the college bookstore

This one probably applies to your mom. She’s been taking you to Staples since you were in kindergarten for that perfect color-coded set of notebooks, folders and binders at the beginning of the year, and she’s reluctant to give up this tradition. But tell her it has to be done. You don’t need to do all that shopping at home because there’s a huge school bookstore with all the supplies you could ever want. If your mom is really distressed over this change, you can let her shop there with you! Crisis averted.

7. Do: Use textbooks as more than a giant paperweight

They’re heavy, they’re huge, and you might be thinking: “who cares?” But, believe it or not, textbooks hold a vast range of knowledge that most likely will be useful to you at some point. I’m not advocating carrying them everywhere you go; that’s just not realistic. Just make sure you open them every once in a while (cough, cough: exams!) If you’re feeling really ambitious, I’d advise skimming your weekly assignments so that you might understand your professors’ lectures.

8. Do: Take deep breaths when the wifi is slow and Netflix isn’t loading

It’s your worst fear, and, yes it happens. Sometimes it’s the weather, and other times it’s just the amount of people online, but sooner or later the wifi will be down. Of course you’ll be watching Netflix, because you’re “taking a break from work.” But without that almighty power connecting you to the worldwide web, that little loading wheel will just spin to your utter irritation. Don’t panic. This will end. Try, if you can, to look at the bright side: instead of watching another episode of Friends maybe you can catch up on some well-needed sleep. Or you can just keep waiting. And waiting. And waiting. And Waiting.

9. Do: Make sure you convince your parents that you miss them more than your dogs

This is crucial, for obvious reasons. No explanation necessary.

Sarah Jane Weill is a rising sophomore at Bowdoin College.

Advice to a Rising College Freshman

May 31, 2015 by The Inside Press

Chloe (seated center in gray top, with sunglasses on her head) with classmates/friends at Columbia University

by Chloe Salzman

Graduating from Horace Greeley a year ago, I knew little to nothing of what to expect of the beginning of my college experience. All I knew was that it would be very different from Chappaqua, and that was exactly what I had signed up for. More specifically, I had looked for a school that would be massively more diverse than Chappaqua, and I succeeded. Of my freshman class, 49% of us identify as a Minority race, whereas 75.5% of Chappaqua is White. In my last year of high school,  I thought about the diversity of Chappaqua a lot, not only in race, but also in cultural and social experiences;  I was trying to prepare myself for life outside of our bubble, but struggled to find any tangible experiences that would prepare me for my future college life.

As most of my peers growing up were white, I came into college really unsure of how race dynamics would play out, both on the larger scheme and in my own personal sphere. Diversity’s presence affects one’s social experience because it creates, for many, an unprecedented proximity of different cultures and races. To my pleasure, I immediately began making friends from all around the country, and the world, from all sorts of different cultures; however, as my class began to settle into this new and diverse community, I noticed that individual social niches were less and less diverse. I’ve since learned that this phenomenon is not unique to my experiences, but rather happens in most colleges. And it isn’t just noticeable to the students–it’s actually been documented and studied. There’s a widespread tendency for students to create more homogeneous social groups, and depend on classes or dormitories to enhance the diversity of their lives.

Minorities, especially blacks, are not private about explaining their perspectives and their reasoning for segregating themselves. There is an inherent sense of community in a homogeneous group. What’s more, they attest to the social hierarchy, even in diverse and liberal environments, that exists in American social dynamics that put blacks at the bottom of the totem pole. This dynamic creates even more of an incentive to join racially segregated groups.

I’ve come now to understand this dynamic better than I ever could have from living in Chappaqua. More importantly, I’ve tried to find any way I can to be a part of a solution: in order to reap the benefits of a diverse school, you need to seek out that diversity, to involve yourself in events and affairs with people of all different cultures, and to be as supportive and egalitarian as you can be.

So, I urge every single student leaving Greeley and entering the real world, the world with diversity and prejudice against anyone, even towards those with privilege, to enter college ready to learn about and accept any and every culture, because the window of opportunity may not remain open forever.

If you go into college thinking of ways to meet the people who resemble your childhood friends, how will you grow? The person you were in high school will always be there and you will always be comfortable going back into a niche like Chappaqua. It takes intention and effort and curiosity to go to college and think “How are my friends different from me? How can  I learn from them?”

Maybe the diversity of a college campus will be present in your immediate social circle, maybe it won’t. Even if it isn’t, that doesn’t mean you have failed at integrating new cultures into your life. On campus there will constantly be debates, discussions, and plays written, directed or performed by students. Take advantage of them. Care and be interested in what matters to your student body–not just to your friends–and you will automatically get something out of what the cultures around you have to offer.

When there was a Black Lives Matter protest at our annual tree lighting ceremony, the student body was forced to care. When Rape Happens Here was projected onto the front of a prominent, iconic building of our campus, to combat sexual violence and rape culture, we were forced to care. And when students were yelling so loudly at a Fight for $15 protest for an increase in minimum wage that the teachers in class were hardly audible, we were forced to care. All of that was simply part of my experience being present on a politically active campus. But when you internalize your campus spirit and diversity, then you benefit as an individual, and you take the lessons you learn outside of the classroom with you beyond college.

Chloe Salzman is a Horace Greeley High School graduate, class of 2014.

College Planning 101

May 25, 2015 by The Inside Press

Bradley E. Silverman, a junior partner and financial advisor with Raymond James of Armonk

by Dan Levitz

When I received the assignment for this article it certainly seemed like a perfect fit. Suburban Dad with a high school senior seeks and finds expert advice regarding the daunting reality of paying for college. I’m pretty sure my Editor was confident I was the right guy for the story because, presumably, my family was already knee-deep in the college process and must have planned ahead for this wonderful rite of passage that comes with an inevitable, and sometimes tremendous, financial burden. I eagerly accepted the assignment, self-assured that I was the Man for the job. Notably, after doing my research, I realized that I was not quite as well-informed as I believed and wish I had known then what I know now. Story of my life!

In 11th grade, as my son began thinking seriously about where he might like to continue his education, my wife and I felt strongly that our priority should be helping him make an informed decision about college. Years ago things were certainly different; I didn’t visit a single school when I was applying and, in retrospect, I couldn’t have been less informed. It’s quite possible that I may have decided where to attend college based on a sweatshirt worn by a cute girl in my class. So, this last year was absolutely fruitful in that we visited over 10 varied schools in different parts of the country, and my boy was able to find the right situation for him. Now, small deposit made, the sobering reality of paying for the privilege of his higher education has abruptly arrived.

When I walked into the offices of Raymond James in Armonk to gather some expert advice on how parents should start financial planning for college, I journalistically took the position of pure ignorance on the subject which was not much of a stretch. I met with Bradley E. Silverman, a junior partner and financial advisor with the firm, and within minutes he informed me that he not only had already enacted a college savings plan for his three year old son but also had one in place for his daughter who is not expected to join the family until she’s born several months from now! Clearly I was in  the right place and also talking to the  right person.

I complimented Mr. Silverman on his vision in planning so early for his children’s future and he modestly pointed out that college planning is part of his job and that he would be remiss if he didn’t do so himself. I told him about my family and that, while my wife and I certainly saved money over the years, we did not use any specific method or instrument for college savings. Sensitively, Mr. Silverman didn’t comment on our lack of financial vision but did proceed to inform me of a variety of financial plans that parents can benefit from in planning for their children’s education.

Mr. Silverman described several methods of financial planning for college but the one he and his family are utilizing, and that he recommends, certainly sounds like a responsible and educated approach. The 529 Savings Plan is state-sponsored and offers tax-deferred savings as well as a certain amount of flexibility that can be beneficial to the family and student. A 529 Plan offers a number of investment portfolios allocated among stocks, bonds, mutual funds, CDs and money market instruments. Significantly, in addition to parents contributing to a 529, grandparents can do so as well and, at the same time, potentially affect their estate planning in an advantageous manner. An important aspect of the 529 is that qualified higher education expenses like tuition, books and supplies can be paid for via the plan while maintaining a tax advantage. And, of course, the big picture is that if a 529 Plan is enacted when a child is small the gains from the investment will hopefully be substantial and go a long way towards paying for a higher education with very favorable tax consequences.

As we chatted, I expressed genuine amazement at the cost of college in 2015, especially private colleges. We discussed the financial advantages of state universities like the fine SUNY system in New York, of which Mr. Silverman and I are both proud graduates. I asked him about the ideal value-wise scenario for college and Mr. Silverman replied, “Financially that would be an Associate’s Degree at a good Community College and then on to a great University.” I think this pragmatic approach might be a hard sell to an ambitious college senior, but Mr. Silverman will find this out for himself as his kids mature. In any case, I was impressed with his knowledge and ability to communicate the many advantages of thinking ahead and saving early in a child’s life.

After our conversation, I felt very positive about learning more about this type of financial planning because college is a tremendously important experience and it shouldn’t have to be a crippling financial burden. I’ve given some very broad strokes but the folks at Raymond James can answer any and all questions on the subject and certainly get young parents started on intelligently saving for their children’s higher education. Not a bad idea.

Dan Levitz, an art dealer and writer, has been a Chappaqua resident for the past 11 years and has a blog on  The Huffington Post.

Growing Up Greeley

March 7, 2014 by The Inside Press

By Tim Bloom

I have lived in Chappaqua my entire life, except for eight summers in Maine and one in China. I loved growing up here, given the beauty of the town, the cohesiveness of the community and the myriad opportunities to do almost anything. There were times, mostly in recent years, where I felt how small Chappaqua is and how insulated we are from what life is really like “out there.” But, that doesn’t mean I didn’t have some defining moments, mostly thanks to some influential figures I had the good fortune to encounter along the way.

Now that I am in college, I can see what a great education I got here; from a terrific kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Kane, at Roaring Brook, to one of my favorite instructors at Seven Bridges, Mr. Knisely, who taught me how to write and do research. At Greeley I learned how to learn. I also learned how to ask the right questions, but most importantly, I learned how to advocate for myself, and to speak up if something seemed unfair, unethical or just plain wrong. I think it’s hard for some to do that sometimes because the ramifications for speaking up can be significant, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t.

There is a sense here that the stakes are high in everything kids do. While that may be true, I am glad I was allowed to screw up sometimes and didn’t always have a backup plan. If we get rescued every time we mess up, we are doomed to repeat those mistakes. There is a lot of pressure on us to always do well, but sometimes that just isn’t possible. I hope parents let their kids fail sometimes because that is how we learn how not to fail the next time.

I played baseball, soccer and eventually football here and was lucky enough to have played for the legendary Bill Tribou at Greeley. He always expected the best from us, and he was a big influence on my determination to always try my hardest at everything I undertake. I also benefited enormously from joining the Chappaqua Fire Department. I believe real community service should be in one’s community or at least close to it. Being a volunteer firefighter has been one of the highlights for me of growing up here. I don’t think it’s for everyone, but it is a meaningful way to help my friends, neighbors and community.

I am now at a university that is many, many times larger than Greeley and I live in a big city for the first time in my life. I play in the band, am pledging a fraternity, and am on the business staff of a professional theatre company celebrating its 125th year. While it’s exciting and a lot of fun, I appreciate having grown up in a beautiful small town, and having received an education that prepared me very well for college. Don’t know where I will end up living, but I do know how lucky I am to have spent my first 18 years growing up in Chappaqua.

Tim Bloom, HGHS Class of 2013, was Student Council President, a recipient of the Chappaqua Rotary’s Jill Goodman Service award. Tim is a first year student at the University of Pennsylvania, where he is studying Political Science and is a member of the business staff of Mask and Wig Club.

The Great Unknown, One Year to Go

August 16, 2013 by The Inside Press

By Lindsay Hand

One more year.

I have been waiting for this moment. The moment when I can say “one more year until I go to college, until I am an adult, until my life really begins.” From the Friday night fro-yo runs to the seemingly endless piles of work each year to the fun times spent with friends, Chappaqua is filled with memories upon memories. I have spent my entire life so far here, and though I have had some experiences living on my own away from home, I don’t think anything can prepare me for leaving completely.

It’s weird to think about the future. Sure, it’s exciting, but it’s also big and scary. It’s like part of me is Nemo –daring, adventurous, anxious to explore –and the other part is Marlin, holding that unruly part of me back, worried about what might happen if I let myself go. This final year here at home is important not only for obvious reasons–academics, family, and friends –but because it is my last chance to ready myself for immersion in the outside world, to come to terms with the fact that while I know my family will always be there for me, once I leave, I’m essentially on my own.

I know that I have lived a sheltered life here in Chappaqua, with many advantages not enjoyed by so many others. I have been so fortunate; I grew up with loving family, amazing friends and fantastic education. I have had so many opportunities to expand my horizons, challenge myself and test my abilities. The real test, however, will come next year, when I am living on my own in college, away from everything that I always just took for granted. As excited as I am for this new experience, I am admittedly nervous for my future endeavors and know I will miss almost everything about home.

There are the little things: brownies from the Farmer’s Market every Saturday, bumping into that person I knew five years ago in Starbucks, and that community feel at the homecoming game every Fall and Relay For Life each Spring. While we all might have complaints or pet peeves about one thing or another, I recognize that Chappaqua is a unique place in which I have been very lucky to have grown up, and it will most definitely be a culture shock when I’m no longer in this familiar environment.

There’s No Crystal Ball

It is one thing to think about the future from the comfort and familiarity of one’s house, but it is something else entirely to go out there and live it. Going to college and having to actually live life without parents (laundry doesn’t just clean itself) is an experience unlike anything any of us have ever been through before, other than, possibly, in small doses each summer; there are so many more responsibilities to manage, decisions to make. All of the studying and working hard over the years has not necessarily answered the question that plagues everyone from childhood through adolescence: “what do you want to be when you grow up?”

A decade ago, our answers would have ranged from astronauts to Disney princesses to firefighters. Now, the answer doesn’t come so easily, and I’m pretty sure there’s no college major called Being a Disney Princess. In many ways, this is probably what scares us all the most; at 17-years-old, how can we possibly know for sure what we want to do for the entirety of our lives? I, personally, have no idea where life will lead me. All I can do is pursue my passions, go with the flow and make my life as full and happy as  I can. Hopefully the rest will all fall into place.

As I stand at the precipice of my senior year of high school, ready to jump into my future, I am held back by the sudden shock that after this year, I may never again see many of the people with whom I have grown up. We’ll all move on, finding our niches whatever and wherever they may be, and going our separate ways. The future is arriving, and we have to make the most of this last year together.

“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.” – Steve Jobs

Two-time Inside Chappaqua Guest Editor Lindsay Hand is a senior at Horace Greeley High School. Growing up, she loved the Magic Treehouse books.