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Gotta Have Faith

January 24, 2011 by Inside Press

By Michael Kohn

British superstar George Michael 
sings “I gotta have faith.” If the crowds who gather at her gigs are any indication, so do the fans of Justine Faith, owner of NightStar DJ and Karaoke. What she started on a whim has blossomed into a successful entertainment company for this resident of Pleasantville.

Justine didn’t set out on becoming a queen of karaoke. After studying Animal Science at Cornell, she hoped to become a veterinarian. William Congreve said: “music hath charms to soothe the savage beast…,” but taking care of animals was not to be. A love of singing, including a three-year stint with the All-City Chorus in Manhattan during high school, eventually brought her to a different career path.

Fifteen years ago, when just a regular karaoke singer, a DJ asked her if she wanted to learn the ropes. So, she learned how to dj, what to say to the crowd and began a business of her own, starting with one show a week. When another bar asked her to do a karaoke show on the same night, she trained her own DJ, and thus, a karaoke empire was born. Today, between Justine and her stable of DJ’s, NightStar DJ and Karaoke now hosts 21 shows each week, not including weddings and parties.

Along with regular gigs in Westchester, Connecticut and the Bronx (her one night “off” is Monday), Justine also hosts a regular Thursday night show at the world-famous Sylvia’s in Harlem. “The singers [there] will blow your mind,” she says.

When I interviewed Justine over the phone, I could hear in her voice the pride she took in her work, including the fact that she was the first African-American woman to own a karaoke company. She talked about how important the singers are to her and pointed out that other DJs sometimes steal time from the singers by singing too often themselves, in spite of the fact that she is blessed with an amazing voice of her own. (Her mother played piano at Carnegie Hall and taught music and piano, and Justine was an accomplished piano player by age six.)

She stressed the value of encouraging her DJs to talk to everyone at the bar, even non-singers, who just come to enjoy a good show. “Anyone can press buttons; it’s about personalities,” she says. As a karaoke DJ myself up in Albany, I was curious to see Justine in action, and fortunately found a chance to after visiting my daughter in New York City. She was returning to her long-running show at Thataway’s Café in Greenwich after a three month hiatus recovering from
surgery, and invited me to see her “live.”

I arrived to find Justine ordering a soda amidst a sea of her loyal fans. On a Sunday night, no less! Justine began the show and I was delighted I made the trip. The atmosphere and the singers were fantastic and everyone was showing karaoke love. I even met a few of the karaoke hosts who work for her. It was clear that they all had Justine’s love for karaoke and her professional philosophy of giving the very best to the patrons. She wants to “make it [the show] memorable so they will come back.” I ended up staying over two hours.

Karaoke’s not all fun and games. In addition to managing all the shows, Justine works hard at booking, preparing contracts, and publicity. “It’s a tough business and I have to work hard to hold onto shows,” she adds. After seeing one, it’s obvious that the effort is worthwhile.

The central theme which emerged during the interview was how important the people are. Justine wants to give them the very best and has been rewarded over the years by meeting many wonderful people. Since she began, at least eight couples married after meeting at karaoke. Justine dj’ed at their weddings too, expressing how honored she felt that she was chosen to entertain.

Locally, you can find Justine and her other hosts at Quaker Hill in Chappaqua, Lucy’s in Pleasantville, Opus in Armonk. For a complete listing of her shows, visit her
website at www.nightstardj.com.

Filed Under: Gotta Have Arts

When Mom, OMG, “Friends” You

January 21, 2011 by Inside Press

By Rick Reynolds

Look. We all know that, regardless of your age, your mother always knew more about you than was good for her health. But when my mother friended me six years after her death, I’m thinking, “Thanks a lot, Facebook!”

Upon awaking from that nightmare, I decided to stay off the social networking site. It appears that Osama bin Laden, Bernie Madoff, and Rick Reynolds are the only holdouts left–in this world or beyond–who prefer
their privacy.

If only there were a “mother” button on Facebook, we would place her there. If you’re like most people, your shameful life dictates that you, instead, place Mom in a special alternate, clandestine area where one neither accepts nor declines; a kind of Facebook purgatory where she can believe you or her prying eyes. Of course, you can always decline the request –in polite company we call it, “ignore.” It’s not that your mom isn’t your friend. Indeed, she’s so special a friend, she comes with her own special name: “MOTHER.”

But if your mother made it to the 21st century a decade after you did, you’ll need a protocol. After all, it’s not just mothers. Many fathers, uncles and grandfathers are married to moms, aunts and grandmothers–if not
yours. And virtually all have received that gift that keeps on giving–social networking.

The main thing to remember, when Mom decides to friend you, is not to panic. Take a deep breath. Draw the air deep into your powerhouse. As I said, your mother already knows how weird you are—if not the details—even without Facebook. Now, all she wants to know about are your secret experiences. (BTW, your father
hasn’t got a clue, unless your mother told him.)

While composing your Facebook status, decide if your profile is appropriate. Look into a mirror and ask yourself if you have more than six pictures of yourself that would prevent you from landing a future job at FedEx. If you’re holding a glass in the picture, Photoshop milk into it. If you’re standing next to undesirable characters holding up birds without feathers, consider deleting them or rethink accepting your mother as a friend. However, you must always remember who’s footing the bill for your lavish lifestyle. And where your inheritance is coming from.

I’ve thought of starting a Facebook page, but with my paranoia, there wouldn’t be anything on it. I’d use an alias, post a picture taken 30 years ago, and retouch my beard. I’d have plenty of friends, but they’d soon get bored staring at a vacant page, much like they do when they read my magazine columns. I read recently about a software developer, Dana Hanna, who walked down the matrimonial aisle with cell phone in hand. After vows were exchanged, but before kissing the bride, Hanna took his cell

phone and updated his relationship status. Just when I was feeling terrible for the bride, I read she grabbed the phone from him so she could update hers.

It was then I knew a new mother was born; one who will eventually know more than is optimal for her health. The minister waited patiently for each to confirm the other’s new status, before declaring them husband and wife.

Mark Twain once wrote, “I was dead for millions of years before I was born, and it didn’t inconvenience me in the slightest.” Well, Twain did ease my unease with mortality, but it will take more than Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg (Time magazine’s “Person of the Year’) to share my millions of sorry moments—despite knowing it would not inconvenience (or surprise) my mother in the slightest.

Chappaqua alumnus and 35-year resident of Chappaqua, humorist Rick Reynolds resides in southern New Hampshire with his wife, daughter,
and two dogs.

Filed Under: Lifestyles with our Sponsors, Rick’s Last Licks

Sweet Ways to Meet

November 30, 2010 by Inside Press

By Mike Lauterborn

What do you do if you are single or newly single? Sure, you could join a dating site, but then what? Where do you go and what do you do on your date? Maybe you don’t think a site devoted strictly to dating is for you. Fortunately, the Internet has some great resources including social networking groups which offer lots of ideas for activities you can enjoy in Westchester and the New York Metro area. Below is a small sampling…

Meet Up!
Meetup promotes itself as “the world’s largest network of local groups.” The online service makes it very simple for anyone to organize a local group around his or her personal interest/s or to join one of the thousands of groups already meeting. According to the site, more than 2,000 groups get together in local communities each day. It’s a great way for single and newly single people to narrow their search for a mate to those with common interests, while widening one’s social circle at the same time. The service boasts 7.2 million members and claims 250,000 monthly meetups. For info, go to: www.meetup.com Wine &

Dine!
Local Wine Events is a free online service which notifies subscribers of local food and wine events which are great opportunities to meet friends and potential love interests with a discerning palate and a passion for good taste. It was founded and developed by Eric V. Orange who has distinguished himself in the wine industry for the past 20 years. Site users can plug in their specific region of interest by name or zip code and see a list of wine events by date, with event details, cost and location included. For info, visit www.localwineevents.com

Get Going!
“Singles On The Go” is a tremendous online resource that allows singles to find groups and activities by state, city or even territory. Links are provided to a very broad range of “to-do’s” including speed dating, mixers, social networking, dining groups, wine tasting, dance groups, religious groups, volunteer teams, civic organizations and clubs–all dedicated to singles. For more information, go to: www. singlesonthego.com

Make A Date!
Single America is billed as “the most complete and up-to-date American singles and dating guide” online. Featured on its site are complete listings of singles’ parties, events, clubs and speed dating. There’s more: reviews of online dating sites, dating tips, advice, safe dating, gay and lesbian dating, religious and ethnic dating and more. This resource is essentially a portal to meeting new people, making friends and finding that certain special someone. Go to: www.Single-America.com

Be A Gourmand!
The Single Gourmet is one of the most established singles groups, known for its integrity and elegance. It was founded 25+ years ago and has chapters nationwide. It offers sophisticated single men and women a relaxed, easy way to meet other successful singles. The group hosts fine culinary events in Westchester, Rockland, Putnam and Fairfield Counties, as well as NYC and Long Island. To learn more and see lists of events, photos and travel plans, go to: www. singlegourmet-metrony.com

Now that you know where to go online, you’ll know where to go!

Mike Lauterborn is a freelance writer, author, marketing consultant and entrepreneur that loves to travel, experience new things and meet people.

Filed Under: Single & Smart

Preventing Eating Disorders

November 24, 2010 by Inside Press

This article is a public service provided jointly by Inside Chappaqua Magazine and Dr. Levy Lombara

PREVENTING EATING DISORDERS

Eating disorders involve extreme emotions, beliefs, and behaviors regarding eating, food and weight. They are a serious health risk, with the highest mortality rate of any mental illness and occur in boys as well as girls from a variety of ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds. This article provides a summary of the eating disorders, major risk factors for their development (especially those we can influence), and suggestions for how to best protect children from developing them.

Denial and secretiveness can make eating disorders difficult to detect. Other than the obvious symptoms, any of the following may indicate a problem:
• Refusing to eat or denying hunger
• Excessive exercising
• Social withdrawal
• Development of lanugo (downy hair on body)
• Damaged teeth or gums
• Puffy cheeks (swollen salivary glands)
• Sores in the throat or mouth
• Scars or calluses on hands/knuckles
• Loose or baggy clothing (to disguise weight loss)
• Traces of vomit, laxatives, or unexplained missing food

If you are certain a child has an eating disorder, get professional help immediately. If you are concerned but not certain, be as nonjudgmental as possible when broaching the topic. Eating disorders are an illness. Treat them with the respect and concern you would any other illness.

Convey your genuine concern and desire to help. An ED is often a child’s best solution to a complex underlying problem, often a family one. If you are the parent, share in the responsibility for the problem (children are often the “identified patient” in a troubled family system) and be willing to seek help along with your child. With early detection and appropriate treatment, ED can be effectively resolved.

RISK FACTORS
• Low Self-Esteem: A potent risk factor for a range of behavioral problems, low self-esteem occurs when children hear and internalize negative ideas about themselves.
• Criticism and Teasing: Children whose parents and siblings are overly critical or who tease them about their appearance are at a higher risk for developing an eating disorder.
• Perfectionism: The belief that nothing-but-perfect-is-good-enough is fertile ground for developing an ED.
• Dieting: Excessive food restriction leads to binge eating (even in people without ED); think of the pendulum effect. Our “old brain” ensures survival by stockpiling food in the face of real or perceived threat of starvation.
• Family Conflicts and Lack of Emotional Support: Ongoing, unresolved family conflicts are toxic for children. Lack of emotional support due to a family conflict–or any other reason–can leave a child vulnerable to using food to regulate their feelings and environment.
• Rewarding Weight Loss: The overwhelming positive response and attention children get when they lose weight may cause children to take dieting too far.
• Genetics: Children with a first degree relative with an eating or mood disorder are at higher risk for the development of one themselves. D
• Transitions: Transitions like moving, changing schools or divorce are often “the straw that broke the camel’s back,” directly precipitating an eating disorder. Everyone experiences emotional distress during transitions but children without a good emotional support system are particularly vulnerable.
• Activities such as ballet, gymnastics, running, wrestling: When appearance and weight requirements are rigorous, children are at risk for eating disorders. Coaches and parents may unwittingly contribute to eating disorders by encouraging young athletes to lose weight.

PREVENTION
Too much outside control inadvertently distracts children from their internal instincts which, if heeded, naturally regulate eating and weight. (Think of a baby who eats with gusto then can’t be forced to take another bite when full.) Establishing healthy eating often requires parents do less not more. Consider the following suggestions:
1. Adults choose what food is bought, kept in the house and served at mealtimes. From these selections, children choose what and how much of what is served to eat.
2. Stay neutral about all foods. Demystify sweets.
3. Offer attention, praise, and hugs instead of food to placate or soothe a troubled child. When foods are used to reward children and show affection, they may start using food to cope with stress or other emotions.
4. Find things other than food, weight and body to talk about in social situations. Diet and weight talk can leave everyone feeling bad.
5. Encourage diversity by accepting your own and other people’s bodies as they are.
6. Do not participate in jokes that belittle another person, especially jokes based on appearance.
7. Be critical of messages from the media. Marketing is intended to make us feel as if we need whatever is being sold, even if that means making us feel bad about ourselves first.
8. Compliment children on things that truly matter, not a number on the scale.
9. Reduce competition. Your child does not have to the be the thinnest or best at anything to deserve your love and adoration.
10. Listen for and address thinking errors. How children interpret and respond to events, particularly difficult ones, powerfully predicts susceptibility to eating (and other) disorder. Inaccurate beliefs, negative thinking and faulty assumptions (termed cognitive distortions) left unchecked can leave a child feeling depressed and vulnerable to a host of self defeating behaviors.

SUMMARY

The value our society places on an unrealistically thin ideal creates a baseline of dissatisfaction, putting children at risk for the development of an eating disorder. The best prevention tips work by fortifying a child’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is nothing more than a collection of thoughts that together form a general belief in oneself as capable, likable and worthy. Children often see themselves as the adults in their lives see them. As their mirror, ensure good health by making sure that your own focus is on your child’s strengths and unique abilities.

Cognitive Distortions:
All-or-Nothing Thinking. Seeing things in black and white categories: “I blew the test,” in response to a single error.

Overgeneralization. Seeing a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat: “I’m always late”-when rarely are such absolutes true.

Jumping to Conclusions. Assuming a negative outcome before sufficient data is available: “I’ll never get chosen” – unless one is either a mind reader or a fortune teller, it is impossible to know the outcome.

Disqualifying the Positive. Rejecting positive experiences or feedback as “not counting” to maintain a negative belief.

Personalizing. Seeing oneself as the cause of some negative external event: “The team lost because of me” when really everyone played a roll in the loss.

Catastrophizing. Exaggerating the importance of negative things: “My vacation is ruined” in response to a flight delay.

Labeling. Instead of describing an error, attaching a negative label: “I’m selfish,” rather than I want to enjoy my new doll today but will happily share it tomorrow.

Emotional Reasoning. Assuming negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel fat” when one isn’t actually overweight.

Should Statements. Trying to motivate with “shoulds” as if one must be punished to get something done.

Mental Filter. Picking out a single negative detail and dwelling on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened: focusing on a single error in an otherwise beautiful performance.

TYPES OF EATING DISORDERS
ANOREXIA NERVOSA involves refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal weight for age and height, feeling or intense fear of becoming “fat” even though often dramatically underweight and, in menstruating females, loss of menstrual periods.

BULIMIA NERVOSA involves binge eating (eating an abnormally large amount of food in a discrete period of time) followed by purging to prevent weight gain. Purging is usually done by vomiting, laxatives, diuretics or excessive exercise. The bingepurge cycle feels “out of control” and is accompanied by dieting and extreme concern with body weight and shape.

BINGE EATING DISORDER involves recurrent episodes of binge eating. While there is no purging, sporadic fasts, repetitive diets, and feeling shame or selfhatred following a binge are common.

EATING DISORDER NOS is used to describe subclinical or mixed symptom eating disorders, as in someone who binges and purges but not frequently enough to warrant a diagnosis of bulimia nervosa.

Rachel Levy Lombara, Ph.D. is available to provide a seminar on the prevention of eating disorders in children, free of charge, to your nonprofit group or organization. Please contact her at (914) 773-4223 or DrLevyLombara@aol.com with your request.

For additional information:
·The American Psychological Association: http://www.apa.org
·The National Eating Disorders Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Burns, D. Feeling Good . Harper, 1999.
The Yale Guide to Child Nutrition , Ed. by W. Tamborlane. Yale University Press, 1997.

Filed Under: Health & Fitness

Through Joanna’s Lens

November 23, 2010 by Inside Press

Filed Under: Worth a Thousand Words

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